[140/300] – time heals all wounds

Hola hola!

I did some reflection just last night while flipping though my going-to-expire passport, filled with chops. As I traced back the dates on the stamps, I started to think back on the people I had travelled with, the places we’ve been to, was it for a special occasion, etc etc. So much memories came pouring back! And I was kinda smiling in my heart and feeling pretty elated and at peace.

If I was doing this same thing just 1 or 2 years back, I wouldn’t have had such pleasant and sweet emotions. Instead I think I’d be feeling bitter and resentful, and will choose to just throw my passport aside, abruptly shut the door of my emotions and go to bed in a not-so-good mood.

Now I know, that I have really moved forward, my heart has moved on too. As I always say, I know I will eventually be grateful and thankful for all good and not-so-good experiences and events that I have to go through. I used to be just saying it, now I know I’m feeling it as well. The spiritual freedom I felt last night was just so light-hearted and weightless, that I’ve come to accept all that has passed with a positive and graceful attitude. Most importantly, I’ve come to accept myself and who I am today (this includes my past as well). This feels really good!

As I look back, my heart and my life shattered into pieces just as year 2012 started. When I thought I could depend on another important aspect in my life to rebuild myself, it crumbled into pieces just as year 2013 unfolded as well. I think I totally lost myself, lost my heart and lost my soul. From then till now, so many things have happened, so many events have passed, I’ve come to realize the people and things I hold most dearly to. These are the people who will always be with me, no matter what happens; to share my joy and celebrate my achievements during good times, and to support me and continue to have unwavering faith, confidence and trust in me during bad times. So blessed to have them in my life.

Almost half of this year has passed. Things have been going pretty well so far, and different parts of my life are starting to fall into pieces. I know some wounds have been healed, but I’m well aware that I’ve not fully recovered yet. So, I shall dedicate the remaining time of this year to complete my wound-healing process, as well as to recreate a more beautiful and loving heart and soul. There will be some scars on it, it may seem imperfect, but it will shine and radiate brightly because of these scars. Without these scars, there wouldn’t be substance and flavour to it. And life is all about savouring different spices and flavours, isn’t it? With a bigger heart and a more beautiful soul, I am totally looking forward to celebrating my birthday and ending this year with a bang in Aussie! Moving on into the new year, I guess I’ll be ready to open my heart to love again. 🙂

Family 9March2014

♥ JY 🙂

[131/300] Ride the Waves, LEVERAGE.

Hola!

Went for my first ever wakeboarding session last Sunday! I’ve been looking forward to it, because it has been something I’ve always wanted to do, and also I want to feel the surge of thrill and excitement of trying something new for the first time! Haven’t managed to successfully stand yet, but will definitely want to make that happen in my next trip! And, I really enjoy being out at the sea. This trip revived my long-forgotten desire of wanting to become a beach babe! 😉 I’ll take more photos on my next trip!

Speaking of riding the waves, many a times in life, someone will just throw a bomb at you. I used to just catch the bomb and let it explode in my hands, complain whine cry when everything, including myself, is blown into pieces, take some time to recover and then think of the next step. A disturbing event just happened a few hours ago while I was trying to cook some pasta for myself FOR THE FIRST TIME (was looking forward to see if I’ve any hidden talent in cooking, but the event just spoilt my mood and appetite totally). Now that it has passed, I reflect back and realized I’ve been more steadfast and calm in settling this issue. And I will not just catch the bomb now, I will fly off together with the bomb as it explodes, and leverage on its huge wave of energy. This is what MD always meant by 借力打力. LEVERAGE. Leverage on the energy brought by external events because these are beyond our control, so we choose to control our reactions and emotions. Leverage on the power of the Universe because that is a much bigger and more macro environment we live in. Just like how I was trying to leverage on the waves to push me forward and stand up while wakeboarding. With leverage, we will be able to achieve much more with optimal effort. In Chinese, we call it 事半功倍 (achieve full results with only half the effort).

JY, brace yourself for a fruitful, productive and possibly life-changing week ahead! 加油加油!

♥ JY 🙂

Day 19 of 300

Hello!

There’s this article which is currently shared by a few friends on Facebook, with the title “Li Ka-Shing teaches you how to buy a car & house in 5 years”. I thought it looked interesting and useful, so I gave it (the original version in Chinese) a read today.

I have to say it first, that it doesn’t exactly teaches a person HOW to buy a car and house in 5 years; no concrete budgeting and planning with numbers and whatnot. But the article indeed includes several guidelines on how to make useful and positive adjustments to your daily life and monthly budgeting, especially on the latter. With so little to spare every month, all the more you’ll have to make it work for you. And you have to spend as little as possible on immediate needs, and devote the rest to “investments” which will reap future benefits. Emphasis is placed on activities which include networking and expanding your social circle, self-improvement and travelling.

Reading this article reminds me once again, that success is a way of life, it is a journey, a lifestyle, not a destination. The same applies for happiness, freedom, etc. Success is determined by what you do every single day, not by a one-off effort. This is the same perspective as the article from waitbutwhy, on directing your focus to laying the bricks, instead of building a house.

A remarkable, glorious achievement is just what a long series of unremarkable, unglorious tasks looks like from far away.

Often, the key to succeeding at something big is to break it into its tiniest pieces and focus on how to succeed at just one piece.

Another important reminder for me: no one plans to fail, but we often fail to plan. The exact words from the article: 人生是可以设计的,生涯是可以规划的,幸福是可以准备的。My translation: one is free to design his life and destiny, plan his career and milestones, and prepare for his happiness and bliss.

Being a person guilty of procrastination, I must add in one last phrase:

She turns her can’ts into cans, dreams into plans, and starts laying bricks, one by one, diligently.

281 more days to lay the bricks diligently to build my path towards happiness and freedom!

♥ JY 🙂

P/S See translated article here: Li Ka-Shing teaches you how to buy a car & house in 5 years

Original article in Chinese: (李嘉诚)教五年内买车买房

Day 15 of 300

Call it Law of Attraction doing its magic again; while I was looking through an article shared by a friend through Facebook yesterday (I don’t normally scan through FB so in depth, and I hardly see this friend’s posts on my news feed), I thought this article was quite apt: How to Pick Your Life Partner. Seems like quite an interesting read! So I went in to check out on the article, and I saw this word in blue: procrastination. Great! It may just be the perfect article for the never-dying procrastinator like me!

So I spent almost an hour in total reading the 2-part article today, and found it really useful! I’ve to say the writer literally dissects the brain and mechanism of a procrastinator’s thought process, to the most minute detail I’ve seen by far. It’s as if he’s penning down my every thought and feeling, sometimes I’m even unaware that such a thought actually existed in my mind! I’m totally surprised and impressed with the level of details. Here are some key takeaways for me (original text from article in blue):

The procrastinator ultimately sells himself short. He ends up underachieving and fails to reach his potential, which eats away at him over time and fills him with regret and self-loathing.

I can’t express how strongly I feel for this statement. What’s the point of having so much potential inside me when I do not even activate a single bit of it and use it to my advantage? Work it, tap into my potential and my life will just sparkle!

Procrastinationthe action of ruining your own life for no apparent reason

Yes, a procrastinator is a plain stupid idiotic retarded moron. Stop being so stupid, no one is going to pity me for being stupid! URGH!

A remarkable, glorious achievement is just what a long series of unremarkable, unglorious tasks looks like from far away. No one “builds a house.” They lay one brick again and again and again and the end result is a house. 

Consistency and perseverance are the building blocks to success. And consistency seems to always be my weakness. Improve it day by day, bit by bit.

It makes no sense to leave the Dark Woods in favor of the Dark Playground—they’re both dark. They both suck to be in, but the big difference is the Dark Woods leads to happiness and the Dark Playground leads only to more misery.

2 choices: either I choose to “enjoy” the current moment of not doing anything (which isn’t exactly enjoyable as well), or I choose to put in actions which I know are useful for my future and lead me to my happiness. Be wise, always choose the one which will lead me to happiness.

You need to prove to yourself that you can do it.

Come’on baby, let’s do this together! Kill procrastination, take up immediate actions!

285 more days for me to rock this awesome year and make wise choices leading down the path of happiness and freedom!

♥ JY 🙂

P/S Check out the original articles from:

Why Procrastinators Procrastinate

How to Beat Procrastination

Day 12 of 300

Hello hello!

Met an ex-comrade for dinner and drinks earlier on, as part of my resolution for the year to ‘tie up any loose ends’ and ‘close any chapters of the book left opened’. Given how closely-bonded we used to be in the past, I just felt suffocated and chocked that the relationship had to just end like this. As a way to say goodbye to the JY of yesterday, I decided that I shall tie up any loose ends in my relationships with people around me for the whole of this year. Now that I’ve shared a piece of my heart and my feelings with her, I feel more at ease and at peace. And I’m happy that my feelings and emotions are reciprocated too.

You can't start the next chapter of your life if you keep re-reading the last one.

So, after concluding old chapters and taking away lessons to be learnt, it’s time to turn the page over and start a new chapter!

Today, I’m feeling thankful and grateful for all the past chapters in my life; if not for these, I won’t have been the person I am today! And I am so looking forward to penning down new chapters in my life henceforth!

288 more days to the new chapters in JY’s life. Cheers!

♥ JY 🙂

Day 8 of 300

Events that happened last night was a really good wake-up call for me. Have I really been serious about my life, my career, my fitness, my time, my everything? How hard have I been working in the direction of my dreams and goals? Or am I just used to an attitude of letting things be and taking things for granted?

JY, FOCUS. Focus on positive, grateful and constructive thoughts every single morning, focus on putting in effort and hard work into doing the right actions everyday, consistently, and you will get the right results.

292 more days to make your life right, and to prove it to the world, more importantly, prove it to myself! Stretch myself and these days to the fullest potential! JYJY! I will make it the best fight of my life!

♥ JY 🙂

Day 2 of 300

Hola!

Day 2, met my favourite guy friend YQ for lunch. *waves hello!* I shared the birth of this blog with him, the look on his face was as if I was the last person on earth he knew who’d write a blog. 这样就对了!Since this is something he wouldn’t expect out of me, I’ll take it as one successful baby step outside of my comfort zone. YAYS. Lunch was great, as usual 😉

Had 2 encounters today; 1 meet up and 1 phone call, both relating to issues of the yesterday. Once again, I am reminded of the importance to devote my energy and focus on the important issue and bigger picture, and not let these negative issues dampen my spirits and distract my focus. I used to dwell on them, even though these issues are beyond my control. Dwelling on them just made me feel even worse and reluctant to do anything; it’s a plain waste of time. So, reminder to self is to transform anything that comes my way into useful and empowering energy to assist me in my actions and journey towards my freedom.

Here’s Walt Disney; I like many of his quotes and sayings (not just because we share the same birthday!)

Walt Disney Quote #1

Every day contributes to a page in your story of life; how will you write it?

This is very useful for me as well! I need this reminder almost everyday to keep myself on track in the right direction:

Lastly, the final result after overcoming all adversities:

The flower that blooms in adversity is the rarest and most beautiful of all.

And I’m really excited and looking forward to see how the flower in me will bloom!

So, thank you life, for planting these trials and tribulations in my way, because I know these adversities are preparing me for much better and bigger things in life! I know I will be grateful for these encounters when I look back at my current situation, 5 years down the road. Let’s work hard and make these shitty situation worth! JYJY aka JY 加油!

298 more days to the blooming of beautiful and lovely flowers!

♥ JY 🙂

Day 1 of 300

大年初五 4 February 2014 11.08am 开工大吉 大吉大利!

Today marks the first day of my journey to freedom, so I decided that I shall do something which I usually don’t, that is to post a #selfie of my #ootd! Well, there’s always a first time to everything. Thanks for all the encouraging likes and positive comments!

It’s been a fruitful and fulfilling day thus far, filled with fairly positive feelings and great connections made with friends. 🙂

One important reminder for today: BE PATIENT, especially when you are looking at things in the long-term perspective. As long as you keep up with what you’re supposed to be doing every single day, the results will come naturally, probably even before you know it! Haste will ruin the entire plan, and you will end up wasting more time and effort. In short, 小不忍则乱大谋.

299 more days to rock the awesome year!

♥ JY 🙂